In our book, “God’s Blueprint for Marriage”, and in our marriage seminars, we look at the relationship between husbands and wives as it reflect the relationship of Jesus Christ and His bride, the church. I’m always looking at ways to explain through scripture what submission means in a marriage relationship. This morning, during my daily devotional reading, I found this in the J. B. Phillips translation, one of the early contemporary English translations. I like the way Phillips speaks of this relationship in Ephesians.
“You wives must learn to adapt yourselves to your husbands, as you submit yourselves to the Lord, for the husband is the “head” of the wife in the same way that Christ is head of the Church. This willing subjection of the Church to Christ should be reproduced in the submission of wives to their husbands. But, remember, this means that the husband must give his wife the same sort of love that Christ gave to the Church, when He sacrificed Himself for her. Christ gave Himself to make her holy, having cleansed her through the baptism of His Word—to make her an altogether glorious Church in His eyes.”
The husband-wife relationship becomes one of mutual submission when this scripture is looked at in its entirety. Unfortunately, particularly in fundamentalist circles, it’s taken out of context. Yes, wives are to submit themselves to their husbands, but husbands are to give themselves up for their wives.
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